In the book Shame and Grace by Lewis B. Smedes he states there is such thing as healthy shame. He refers to healthy shame as a voice from our true self. His book includes the following quote:
“The feeling of shame is a fact which absolutely distinguishes [us] from lower nature”.
– Vladimir Soloviev
I read that chapter and it really resonated. It makes sense that when feeling shame it’s a signal that something is off. For example, I recall feeling shame when someone introduced themselves to me at a networking event with their job title. And that job title was quite an impressive one. She then followed with the dreaded question (dreaded to those who hate their jobs of course) ‘what do you do?’. I felt shame stating my job title which was a much lower level than hers. That could be viewed as healthy shame meaning that I wasn’t in the right role for me and I wasn’t living up to my potential.
He goes on to say that shame is a painful signal that we are not living the life we were meant to live and it’s a first step towards healing. That is if we recognize the feeling of shame. Shame is one of those ambiguous emotions. It can feel like sadness, embarrassment, depression etc. Once we recognize shame for what it is, we can use it as fuel to motivate us to become the best version of ourselves. But we need not be afraid of it, we need to approach it with an inquisitive mind and inquire what it is there to teach you. When we do that, we will discover parts of ourselves that were well hidden yet worth knowing. That discovery will serve you well on your journey to your higher self.